Hello beautiful friends!!
I saw this post on Instagram the other day that opened up my eyes and broadened my thinking:
I’ve always been a firm believer on everything happening for a reason. I believe that when one thing doesn’t work out, it’s because there is something greater awaiting you that you just can’t envision yet.
Whether it’s a new relationship, a new career, or any other aspect in your life, I think that oftentimes when we are in the midst of experiencing something so incredible and it just feels like it’s “meant to be”, you anticipate (and desire) it to be everlasting.
And sometimes when those relationships or friendships end, you’re disappointed because wait, wasn’t this meant to be..?
When relationships end or you find yourself slowly beginning to drift away from friendships, it inevitably is going to hurt. You’re going to grieve what was and that’s completely okay. Allow yourself the time to mourn the loss. However, when you find yourself in this situation, keep that quote in mind. Think about all of the things you’ve learned/gained from the experience.
I like to look at life as something quite transient and temporary. Both the good and the bad, whatever it is you’re going through, it’s all evanescent.
Going through life with this mindset helps me personally appreciate the good that much more because if I’m not going to have this forever, I have to appreciate it while I have it. And it helps me get through the difficult times because I understand that though it may be challenging in this moment, this feeling too isn’t forever.
Now friends, this is way easier said than done. I still find myself consumed with worry/fear when one door closes and I’m so grateful to have friends who will help me snap out of these dark moments. I’ve realized that when I do let my mind drift into the fears of uncertainty, I’m wasting all of this time that could’ve instead be filled with joy.
As the quote explains, maybe in this particular instance, no matter how much you so hope it to be, what’s ‘meant to be’ wasn’t that person or event, but instead, what you’ve gained from the experience.
If anything at all, the wisdom that you’ve gained from the experience can be shared to help others who are presently struggling with similar losses you’ve faced.
I know that for me, this helps me get through grievances in life. The thought that I can use my personal experience to help others who are going through the same thing.