I don’t understand when people say “you’ve changed” as if it were a bad thing… Ummm, heck ya I’ve changed and I will continue to do so throughout my life. As a matter of fact, I want and seek change.
As I go through life and obtain new life experiences, I’m going to gain a fresh perspective each time. With new knowledge, why wouldn’t I begin to question my current thoughts, beliefs, and opinions? How could I possibly not want to change and evolve? Personal growth and development, my friends!!
I’ll be evolving throughout life but my core values such as compassion and integrity that make up who I am, will always remain intact. At the core, I’ll always be the same Cindy whether it be five, ten, or even twenty years in the future.
In addition to changing thoughts and beliefs, as I go through my journey of personal development, I come to realizations, as we all do, that I no longer want a certain person to play a part in my life anymore and hey, that’s absolutely okay.
All I have is this one transient life so if someone is not in alignment with the new direction of my life, I’m not going to devote all of my energy into them anymore. My time is worth more.
I used to be a people-pleaser, push-over, etc., you name it. I’ve come to realize now that there are people in my life that use manipulation and guilt to get what they want from me. Whether they do so to get me to do what they want or to prevent me from “changing”, I don’t necessarily think that they do it to intentionally hurt me.
I believe that those who say “you’ve changed” as if it were a bad thing are the people who are scared of change themselves so they try to stunt your growth too. Perhaps they’re just complacent, comfortable, and completely uninterested in changing their lifestyle so they want you to be like them. As they say, misery loves company. Or maybe they’re scared because you changing means your relationship with them changes too.
When I come face to face with this situation, I recognize that perhaps, it may be time to move on & leave this part of my life behind with the previous chapter.
I can only hope that they would want to grow with me, however, this is not always the case. I never want to cut ties with friends but when I’ve grown out of a phase in my life that they seem to be stuck in, and they’re now only showing up as a negative influence in my life, I have to make a decision for what’s best for me & my future. And as hard as the decision may be, I know for my best interest, it’s time to let go.
I want to focus more of my time and energy on the path that allows me and my personal development to prosper. And if they want to join me on the journey of personal growth, great! If not, this might be where our paths diverge, and that’s completely okay too. All I know is that I will no longer allow another to try and guilt-trip me from evolving with the words: “you’ve changed”.
Cheers to endless growth & prosperity!!